Last year while Dan was in the hospital his relative wrote to me telling me that she was worried about me. She thought that the hospital stay was emotionally, physically, and mentally challenging for me. Dan had already been bedridden at home for 4 weeks followed by 4 weeks of intense physical therapy at home and during this time I lost 50 pounds without trying to lose weight. She suggested that I rest, eat, and pray. She also thought that I was the best thing that ever happened to her uncle. She stated that I had loved him, supported him, course corrected him, cared for him, been his friend and the love of his life, etc. She was sure that he would get through the stay in the hospital. I thanked her for her concern and wrote the following back to her.
Dan and I have been very good for each other. I have known from the very beginning when Dan asked me to marry him that he was changing his lifestyle to go down a totally different path with me. I knew all about him being the man about town. He also convinced me that I would be happy and content and less lonely with him. It has been and still is a very wonderful and fulfilling life. Don’t worry about me because Dan is very sensitive to my needs and very protective that I come home and rest. I’m not to clean house, etc. I am to sit and do hobbies, play games on my phone, and/or watch old movies. This recent journey has not been a burden for me because I am only paying back to Dan for what he did for me in December 1984. Just 5 months after we married I had to have a complete hysterectomy due to uterine cancer. I was out of school for 12 weeks. He washed me. He fed me. He consoled me about never being able to have children much less grandchildren. At the same time my mother was in Kennestone Hospital dying. Dan was so kind and loving not only to me, but also to my parents. Taking care of Dan all of these years is the very least that I could do to repay all of his kindness and loving during a very hard time in 1984. Dan and I have always had so much respect and admiration for each other that our relationship has just been very natural. There is not anything that I wouldn’t do for Dan because I know in my heart and soul that he feels the exact same way about me. I have a deep and abiding love for Dan.
She wrote back that she respected this beautiful story of the truly perfect love and marriage.
Molly Spier, August 2023